CAST-INTERCASTE

With the being of all cast level in the same field, its not uncommon to be or being loved by other people of different cast. If the age was of teen, then we can say that, this type of love might be immature. But what we will say, if it is a mature love, when we fall at the age of around 25? Should we only date and share the experiences and then leave the relation citing that its the intercaste one?? Or shall we take it as responsibility to think that we need to unite for good goal of the future.

It is biologically proved that the younger generation born from the intercaste family are more healthier and more intelligent than the ones who are born from same-caste family. But that does not only prove that we must go always the intercaste. We have to see our family, our neighbor and other people around us before we have to take this decision. With the examples seen in our society, here are the disadvantages for the intercaste marriage:

1. Problem with the culture for both ones. For ex, Newari girl wont know the culture of Brahmin family and the Brahmin boy wont know the Newari culture. This creates problem when we are celebrating some festival in our surrounding.

2. Problem with the relation. You cannot guarantee that your intercaste marriage will always be accepted. So, in some of the situation you have to leave your family and live alone, or sometime, live with the parents with thinking some pissed of things.

3. Problem with the surroundings. After being intercaste, both people cannot accomodatise in the surroundings. The more loveable and caring family members tends to be far from the relation and you tend to be moving far from the relation between them.

4. Problem with the aspect of the situation. With the intercaste marriage, small quarrel between husband and wife tends to be a big issue in the family. We should always care that quarrel and not let it rumor for the other people if we are in intercaste.

Its not like that only there are negative things for the intercaste, there might be the positive aspects too. Like the younger generation being intelligent, knowing about both the cultures and the language, getting dependent on ones feet. But all this depends upon how much practically you can think of the future when you are in relation.

If you are ready to face the racial discrimination in front of your own parents and families, then take the challenge to have an intercaste one.

Comments

Rachelle Lim said…
i am a filipina who had a relationship with a newari. just few days ago, he broke off with me after 1.5 years being together, because he was scared of hurting his family. i warned him in the 1st week of the relationship that if this was the case in his culture, then i dont want to continue the relationship because i had the same experience with a bangadeshi man, my ex bf. but at that time he told me he will convince his mom and tell her he loves me. but just a few days ago, he talked to his mom and told her he is having a relationship with a foreigner, and on that same day he decided he can no longer be with me. he said that his mother told him that he is the eldest son and that he needs to take care of his 2 younger sisters, meaning he needs to be an example that they shouldnt have relationships outside their caste. you have pointed out the negative sides of intercaste relationships, but i know of a newari girl here in new zealand who has married a foreigner and i know a nepali guy who has married a nz local, they are very happy. the negatives sides u pointed out, i cannot help but notice that the situations you have put forth are totally based on the families' behaviors. if one chooses to judge someone by her caste and not by her integrity and kindness, then it is shallow. one must question tradition and culture, we must not be taught what to think but HOW to think. there is unnecessary drama and hurt in these types of cultures and traditions because people are being judged by their caste and not their heart. my bf has not explained to his mother how long we have been together, i believe it's because it would be insulting to his mother that he hasnt told her anything of his personal life for 1.5 years. i am disheartened by the fact that this very loving person who i knew has acted in a very irresponsible way. i am infuriated as well by the shallowness that certain traditions portray. i am in disagreement to the points you have made about intercaste relationships being problematic. it is problematic because individuals make it problematic based on something that is irrelevant to the love shared between 2 people. it is a choice, not a circumstance or a chance event.
Tuesday, July 31, 2012 10:34:00 AM
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